How to Write a Eulogy

How to Write a Eulogy

We'll be involved with you throughout the whole process of writing a eulogy, from helping you organize your thoughts to helping you to write the eulogy and helping you to choose someone who will deliver it.

Sit back and think about the anecdotes and memories you could share to shed some light on your loved one's character and personal interests. Bring factual details into play whenever you can to help the reader clearly see who your loved one was, how they lived, what they did, who and what they loved. The more rich in detail, the more memorable the eulogy becomes.

Christina Ianzito, in "How to Write a Eulogy", offers these suggestions; many of them come from Garry Schaeffer's book, "A Labor of Love".

  • Outline the eulogy: In addition to helping you stay focused, an outline will keep your eulogy organized so you can effectively break down the task of writing into manageable pieces.
  • Ask for the input of other family members and friends. They may be able to provide you with some great stories to share.
  • Always try to share examples of the statements you make about your loved one. If you want to say, "she was generous with her time," tell a story that supports the statement.
  • Do not focus too much on yourself. After all, this isn't a eulogy for you; keep your writing focused on your loved one. You may even want to ask others to read your first draft to make sure the focus is in the right place.
  • Go for the humor. Shared laughter is a very healing experience so don't be afraid to make people laugh.
  • Write the first draft. Don't fuss over every word; just get your ideas on paper.
  • Put it aside for a while. This has, no doubt, been an emotional experience. Take some time away from the writing desk to get perspective and release stress or sorrow.
  • Come back to edit and polish. This is the time to refine the eulogy into its final form.

    • Delivering a Eulogy

    Unless you're a seasoned public speaker, delivering a eulogy can be a scary, emotionally-trying time. Most families have a person of their choice either a minister or a person they respect to read the eulogy. If you choose to read the eulogy yourself, the following are some good recommendations for you:

    • Take your time with the delivery.
    • Breathe deeply.
    • Stay relaxed.
    • Take regular sips of water.

    If you have any doubts about your ability to perform in front of those in attendance, consider appointing a back-up person to fill-in for you. If while you are reading the eulogy you begin to feel uncomfortable, this person can step in.  It's perfectly alright if this happens. Everybody will understand and you shouldn't feel any embarrassment.

    Finding Examples of Eulogies

    Some great examples of eulogies can be found on-line.  Search for "how to write a eulogy" - you'll be directed to literally dozens of videos and articles.

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